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100 Days of Thought Provoking Questions- Day 4

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Protein Shakes

Shake it up!

Have you ever wanted to supplement your diet with a nutritious & beneficial protein shake? You can actually burn a ton of calories just trying to decide which protein powder, (supplement), is best for you. So I have decided to give you my opinion on a couple of variations, as well as what works best for me.

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100 Thought Provoking Questions… Day 3

I’m  in a better mood today, so you’re in luck I will not be rambling about my mishaps and promise to focus on my question.

So today’s question has to do with your home, it’s so easy to get carried away daydreaming about a shiny new house, or adding space to your existing place. Home is a sacred place for many, and it’s important to embrace where you live. Write a love letter to your home, sharing all the good that is to be found inside it.

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100 Days of Thought Provoking Questions- Day 2

Here we go.. day 2 of thought-provoking questions.. I’m actually looking forward to answering every question in this book. But to be honest this one might be a bit boring.

 

As you can see my view looks pretty dim… cold, snowy and birds constantly reenacting  the Japanese Kamikaze scene from the Pearl Harbor Movie. There’s an occasional ninja squirrel trying to get to the bird feeder but he over shoots his jump. That’s it, thats all I got for this question.. I can’t go any deeper.

Ugh my mind is elsewhere and I’m in a bit of a mood, maybe because I had to vacuum the house again today. This vacuuming on a daily basis is getting crazy… I’ve been at it for 2 yrs now and I also have the help of a robot vacuum I’ve amusingly called R2-D2, but it seems it’s never enough.  The reason for my obsessive vacuuming is that I have a Labrador and two cats, so just with the dog alone the shedding is insane. I think I use to like dogs but lately not so much, especially with the shedding and the drooling. Maybe it’s because I’m older now and I don’t have the patience to deal with the maintenance of this dog.  So I look at him with remorse and then I feel awful because he annoys me so much.

Am I an awful person? I sound like an awful person. I can’t believe I have become this person .. a person who loathes dogs because a floating hairball.  I feel horrible … geeze Sarah McLachlan is going to read this one day and hate me. I can see her now, stalking my house singing, “In the arms of an angel.”

I’m heartless .. heartless I tell you…

So yeah .. no deep meaningful thing here today!

 

 

 

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100 Days of Thought Provoking Questions… Day 1

Last year I stumbled across this book at Barns and Nobles, it’s a soft cover field guide called “Bella Grace Field Guide to Everyday Magic.”  It’s a book with 100 questions aimed at self-exploration. I was very intrigued by this and also desperate to find some sort of inspiration to get me writing again for my blog. Well, the field guide sat on my desk along with my computer collecting dust for about 3 months until today.

Today, January 4, 2018 to be exact, I decided to “Get Inspired,” so I grabbed all my blogging magazines, the field guide and watch a whole season of Gilmore Girls and nothing happened. I’ve been sitting here on my recliner for literally 3 hours just watching Gilmore Girls.  I’m on the season Rory moves in with Logan.  While reaching for my 4th cup of a coffee I accidently knocked over my journal and my new Bella Grace Field Guide… could this be a sign?

Just like that I was hit with an idea… why not blog a question for 100 days? This might be a way to really dig deep and for everyone to get to know me. This might even inspire you all to try this book for your own self exploration.

 

Day 1 –

 

This is an easy question for me … two songs quickly come to mind, one is #41 by the Dave Matthews Band and A Sorta Fairytale by Tori Amos.

 

#41

This song means a lot to me .. Listening to it puts me in sort of trance.  The true meaning of the lyrics is about Dave Matthews having trouble with colleagues when he was first starting. To me it means something different.

“Come and see
I swear by now I’m playing time against my troubles, oh
Oh, I’m coming slow but speeding”

 

We all go through things in life .. good and bad. When I’m overcoming the obstacle in my life I feel as though I have triumphed against yet another one of life trials. “I’m coming in slow but speeding towards something better.

“I will go in this way, and find my own way out”

 

Sometimes no matter who tries to help or what advice is given .. you have to realize that you  have gotten yourself here and you’re going to be the only person to get yourself out. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s one of those inner growth moments…embrace it.

“Why won’t you ever be glad
It melts into wonder
I came in praying for you
Why won’t you run
In the rain and play
Let the tears splash all over you”

 

Human Nature 101.. dwell on the negative! We all do it … it takes super human strength not to let the negative seep in, than to just simply look at the positive in things. I feel that this is me yelling at me to stop doing just that. Why can’t I embrace the possibilities of what’s to come. This is where I roll down the windows, breathe in deep, feel the sun on my face and say … “fuck it!”

Life is good .. heck! it’s better than good … and to think this is just the beginning of my adventure.

 

A Sorta Fairytale

 

Who doesn’t love Tori Amos? Her songs are sometimes hard to decipher at the start but I feel she writes about her truths in her life. I guess that’s why I love her music so much, even though it might not be what she meant in her lyrics it’s easy to create my own story through her lyrics.

“And I’m so sad like a good book
I can’t put this day back
A sorta fairytale with you
A sorta fairytale with you”

This song reminds me of life and the fairytale we are told or fed when we are little, and even though you know life isn’t a fairytale you still are saddened by the fact that someone or something is not as perfect as you imagined it to be.  Life is full of joys and full of disappointments but that is the beauty of life. The beautiful thing about being human is even though we have suffered we still have the hope the fairytale is real.

 

Well sorry if this was so long and boring. I would love to hear your answers to this question.. 🙂

 

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Eat Fat, Lose Fat

No, I am not talking the Atkins Diet, I am referring to the Ketogenic or as some call it the Carb Cycling Diet. Regardless of what you call it, scientific method is the same. Feed your body good fats/low carbs and your body will learn to use stored body fat as fuel.

 
After reading up on this,  I decided to take one for the team and eat like this for four weeks to be able to give you my experience.
What was the hardest part you ask? Learning to make & drink bulletproof coffee, and limiting your carbs five days out of the week.
 
So most days I started out with a bullet proof coffee which consist of (black coffee, half-and-half, tablespoon of coconut oil and a tablespoon of butter (pasture raised butter)! This regimen gives the body great fats first thing in the morning after fasting for 12+ hours.
 
Shortly after the coffee,  I will work out and drink a bone broth-based protein with added super greens, followed by three eggs, spinach and avocado. Sounds like a lot, but remember, I fasted for 12 hours and trained hard!
 
Next meal is at 1pm.
 
Lunch is usually similar to dinner, low carb veggies and lean protein. I often do not crave snacks, as my body feels satisfied.
Last meal at 6pm and at 8pm I like to have a nice hot tea to fill the belly.
 
How did I feel overall? I loved it!!
Some days I was a little tired but honestly, my body responded well and my brain function seemed more clear.
 
My results? I lost 6 lbs so far…and 1% body fat. That may not sound like much, but my levels are not high and it was only 4 weeks.
 
Trying to decide if this is something you want to try? 
*Check out this gentleman who is fighting brain cancer on this diet Logan Fusion
* Google some articles to become familiar
* Don’t shy away from good fats in moderation
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Hygge Your Life & Home One Cozy Room At A Time

I first got bit by the decorating bug when I decided to open a furniture store in Massachusetts. I had no real experience with home decor or owning a furniture store, but at that time I loved Mexican Furniture …mostly the raw pine carved furniture. At first I was weary about how the towns people of Wayland, MA  would receive my store, but I was happily surprised by the warmth and acceptance of something new.

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Change..Life’s Unexpected Gift

When we were young, change was easier to handle. It didn’t mean we partiqularly liked it, but we were more apt to adapt to whatever changes came into our lives. To accept change and move forward was sort of a right of passage to growing up and becoming adults.

Change in our 40’s is not a welcomed thing, maybe because the changes at are age could be something like losing your job, getting divorced or finding out you are not in good health.

 

Every time my life was about to go through a major change, I sorta freaked out for about a minute. Seriously who wouldn’t? It’s a normal human reaction. When change is forced upon you it is better to embrace it with a open mindset. Change is a natural occurrence and also a necessary one. Change gives us the opportunity for growth, it also enables us to see things in a new perspective. If you keep these things in mind you will be able to navigate through the changes in your life with acceptance.

Sometimes change comes with an inner restlessness … a small voice inside you that keeps calling you, pushing you towards a new direction.

For the past few months I have be struggling with ideas for my blog. I felt as if I couldn’t really connect with what I was posting  on Instagram or writing on my blog. I love fashion so I thought I would post and write about that passion.. but overtime I felt as if it fell short… it wasn’t full filling. Don’t get me wrong, I am still a fashionista and a foodie for life!

Since I’ve been in Illinois, with my new family, life and home I have been joyfully thrown into the renovating of my house. The house has a unique look kinda lodge, kinda stuck in the 80’s, kinda WTH! The outside of the house is very woodsy which I love. When we decided to give this old gal a face lift I was a bit overwhelmed, but also excited to make this a home for all of us. My main goal was to keep some of the lodge style charm but also combined it with a bit of modern. This whole project has taken over a year and we are still at it. All I can say is that this is my happy place. I knew I loved to decorate but doing both decorating and renovating has been a dream come true. I also have a love for antiques and hunting for unique finds at flea markets and giving it a new life. I love baking… lots of baking. I love cooking with my husband and trying out new recipes. I love sitting in front of my fireplaces, all 3 of them. I love watching the trees welcome the seasons with their kaliedescope of colors. I love sharing my experiences be it good or bad and also sharing how I cope with it. So in the following weeks my Fabulous and 40 site and my Instagram will be going through some changes too .. good ones I promise.

Life is good…ahh maybe great, and my inner voice is telling me that I need to share what’s in my heart and soul with you all. I feel that if my post makes you smile or cry or wonder or hope then this is what I was put here to do. So forgive me for all my rambling but what I’m trying to say is that I have decided to take a new direction with Fabulous and 40. I want to share my home life, how I keep my sanity in my new life, how I handle the changes that come with turning 40. How I  make my home a cozy, comforting place and how you can too. I want to move you and inspire you. My goal is to share how life at 40 (or 40 something ) can be pretty amazing.

So this is how I embrace Change…it might be scary but it can also be very rewarding.

Thank you for joining me on this new journey!

 

 

 

 

 

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Fad Diets vs Better Eating

If there was a magic pill to lose weight, would you take it? Do you fall for every new diet fad hoping for a different outcome than the last one? Have you ever wondered why most Fad Diets don’t work for you?

The most important thing when trying to improve your health is your approach and purpose.  Why have you decided to respect your health and make lifestyle changes? If you’re not doing it for yourself, chances are your success rate will be compromised. We must decide to put ourselves first in order to stay dedicated, motivated and disciplined.

Secondly, we need to be willing to try out new things. Not one diet is the right blueprint for everyone. You have to look at your lifestyle, your current eating habits and your food restrictions. You have to be willing to make sacrifices, remain regimented and disciplined with these new eating habits. Making small changes and food swaps is the easiest way to be consistent and successful.

Lastly, but most importantly, follow a meal plan that makes you feel great. If restricting carbohydrates makes you have less energy, even though you’re eating a substantial amount of fruits, vegetables and protein, then that may not be for you.  If a high-protein diet is something you want to try out, but your body is just not responding well to it, you may be doing more harm than good.


The best measurement to see what “diet plan” works best for you is how your body forms and feels each and every day. It’s not about the scale, it’s not about the weight loss, it’s about your overall well-being.

 Simple swaps for a healthier well-being

  • Drink water instead of sugary drinks
  • Eat oatmeal instead of processed cereal
  • Pick healthy protein sources instead of protein shakes/bars (although these are convenient)

 

XOXO Jennifer

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