Here we go.. day 2 of thought-provoking questions.. I’m actually looking forward to answering every question in this book. But to be honest this one might be a bit boring.
As you can see my view looks pretty dim… cold, snowy and birds constantly reenacting the Japanese Kamikaze scene from the Pearl Harbor Movie. There’s an occasional ninja squirrel trying to get to the bird feeder but he over shoots his jump. That’s it, thats all I got for this question.. I can’t go any deeper.
Ugh my mind is elsewhere and I’m in a bit of a mood, maybe because I had to vacuum the house again today. This vacuuming on a daily basis is getting crazy… I’ve been at it for 2 yrs now and I also have the help of a robot vacuum I’ve amusingly called R2-D2, but it seems it’s never enough. The reason for my obsessive vacuuming is that I have a Labrador and two cats, so just with the dog alone the shedding is insane. I think I use to like dogs but lately not so much, especially with the shedding and the drooling. Maybe it’s because I’m older now and I don’t have the patience to deal with the maintenance of this dog. So I look at him with remorse and then I feel awful because he annoys me so much.
Am I an awful person? I sound like an awful person. I can’t believe I have become this person .. a person who loathes dogs because a floating hairball. I feel horrible … geeze Sarah McLachlan is going to read this one day and hate me. I can see her now, stalking my house singing, “In the arms of an angel.”
Last year I stumbled across this book at Barns and Nobles, it’s a soft cover field guide called “Bella Grace Field Guide to Everyday Magic.” It’s a book with 100 questions aimed at self-exploration. I was very intrigued by this and also desperate to find some sort of inspiration to get me writing again for my blog. Well, the field guide sat on my desk along with my computer collecting dust for about 3 months until today.
Today, January 4, 2018 to be exact, I decided to “Get Inspired,” so I grabbed all my blogging magazines, the field guide and watch a whole season of Gilmore Girls and nothing happened. I’ve been sitting here on my recliner for literally 3 hours just watching Gilmore Girls. I’m on the season Rory moves in with Logan. While reaching for my 4th cup of a coffee I accidently knocked over my journal and my new Bella Grace Field Guide… could this be a sign?
Just like that I was hit with an idea… why not blog a question for 100 days? This might be a way to really dig deep and for everyone to get to know me. This might even inspire you all to try this book for your own self exploration.
Day 1 –
This is an easy question for me … two songs quickly come to mind, one is #41 by the Dave Matthews Band and A Sorta Fairytale by Tori Amos.
This song means a lot to me .. Listening to it puts me in sort of trance. The true meaning of the lyrics is about Dave Matthews having trouble with colleagues when he was first starting. To me it means something different.
“Come and see
I swear by now I’m playing time against my troubles, oh
Oh, I’m coming slow but speeding”
We all go through things in life .. good and bad. When I’m overcoming the obstacle in my life I feel as though I have triumphed against yet another one of life trials. “I’m coming in slow but speeding towards something better.
“I will go in this way, and find my own way out”
Sometimes no matter who tries to help or what advice is given .. you have to realize that you have gotten yourself here and you’re going to be the only person to get yourself out. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s one of those inner growth moments…embrace it.
“Why won’t you ever be glad
It melts into wonder
I came in praying for you
Why won’t you run
In the rain and play
Let the tears splash all over you”
Human Nature 101.. dwell on the negative! We all do it … it takes super human strength not to let the negative seep in, than to just simply look at the positive in things. I feel that this is me yelling at me to stop doing just that. Why can’t I embrace the possibilities of what’s to come. This is where I roll down the windows, breathe in deep, feel the sun on my face and say … “fuck it!”
Life is good .. heck! it’s better than good … and to think this is just the beginning of my adventure.
A Sorta Fairytale
Who doesn’t love Tori Amos? Her songs are sometimes hard to decipher at the start but I feel she writes about her truths in her life. I guess that’s why I love her music so much, even though it might not be what she meant in her lyrics it’s easy to create my own story through her lyrics.
“And I’m so sad like a good book
I can’t put this day back
A sorta fairytale with you
A sorta fairytale with you”
This song reminds me of life and the fairytale we are told or fed when we are little, and even though you know life isn’t a fairytale you still are saddened by the fact that someone or something is not as perfect as you imagined it to be. Life is full of joys and full of disappointments but that is the beauty of life. The beautiful thing about being human is even though we have suffered we still have the hope the fairytale is real.
Well sorry if this was so long and boring. I would love to hear your answers to this question.. 🙂
No, I am not talking the Atkins Diet, I am referring to theKetogenicor as some call it the Carb Cycling Diet. Regardless of what you call it, scientific method is the same. Feed your body good fats/low carbs and your body will learn to use stored body fat as fuel.
After reading up on this, I decided to take one for the team and eat like this for four weeks to be able to give you my experience.
What was the hardest part you ask? Learning to make & drink bulletproof coffee, and limiting your carbs five days out of the week.
So most days I started out with a bullet proof coffee which consist of (black coffee, half-and-half, tablespoon of coconut oil and a tablespoon of butter (pasture raised butter)! This regimen gives the body great fats first thing in the morning after fasting for 12+ hours.
Shortly after the coffee, I will work out and drink a bone broth-based protein with added super greens, followed by three eggs, spinach and avocado. Sounds like a lot, but remember, I fasted for 12 hours and trained hard!
Next meal is at 1pm.
Lunch is usually similar to dinner, low carb veggies and lean protein. I often do not crave snacks, as my body feels satisfied.
Last meal at 6pm and at 8pm I like to have a nice hot tea to fill the belly.
How did I feel overall? I loved it!!
Some days I was a little tired but honestly, my body responded well and my brain function seemed more clear.
My results? I lost 6 lbs so far…and 1% body fat. That may not sound like much, but my levels are not high and it was only 4 weeks.
Trying to decide if this is something you want to try?
*Check out this gentleman who is fighting brain cancer on this diet Logan Fusion
Almost everybody knows Shaun T, the creator of Insanity, Hip-Hop Abs and T 25. He is a fitness mogul thats been around for at least a decade, motivating and inspiring people to take that first step into a higher level of fitness and weight loss.
I first got bit by the decorating bug when I decided to open a furniture store in Massachusetts. I had no real experience with home decor or owning a furniture store, but at that time I loved Mexican Furniture …mostly the raw pine carved furniture. At first I was weary about how the towns people of Wayland, MA would receive my store, but I was happily surprised by the warmth and acceptance of something new.
When we were young, change was easier to handle. It didn’t mean we partiqularly liked it, but we were more apt to adapt to whatever changes came into our lives. To accept change and move forward was sort of a right of passage to growing up and becoming adults.
Change in our 40’s is not a welcomed thing, maybe because the changes at are age could be something like losing your job, getting divorced or finding out you are not in good health.
Every time my life was about to go through a major change, I sorta freaked out for about a minute. Seriously who wouldn’t? It’s a normal human reaction. When change is forced upon you it is better to embrace it with a open mindset. Change is a natural occurrence and also a necessary one. Change gives us the opportunity for growth, it also enables us to see things in a new perspective. If you keep these things in mind you will be able to navigate through the changes in your life with acceptance.
Sometimes change comes with an inner restlessness … a small voice inside you that keeps calling you, pushing you towards a new direction.
For the past few months I have be struggling with ideas for my blog. I felt as if I couldn’t really connect with what I was posting on Instagram or writing on my blog. I love fashion so I thought I would post and write about that passion.. but overtime I felt as if it fell short… it wasn’t full filling. Don’t get me wrong, I am still a fashionista and a foodie for life!
Since I’ve been in Illinois, with my new family, life and home I have been joyfully thrown into the renovating of my house. The house has a unique look kinda lodge, kinda stuck in the 80’s, kinda WTH! The outside of the house is very woodsy which I love. When we decided to give this old gal a face lift I was a bit overwhelmed, but also excited to make this a home for all of us. My main goal was to keep some of the lodge style charm but also combined it with a bit of modern. This whole project has taken over a year and we are still at it. All I can say is that this is my happy place. I knew I loved to decorate but doing both decorating and renovating has been a dream come true. I also have a love for antiques and hunting for unique finds at flea markets and giving it a new life. I love baking… lots of baking. I love cooking with my husband and trying out new recipes. I love sitting in front of my fireplaces, all 3 of them. I love watching the trees welcome the seasons with their kaliedescope of colors. I love sharing my experiences be it good or bad and also sharing how I cope with it. So in the following weeks my Fabulous and 40 site and my Instagram will be going through some changes too .. good ones I promise.
Life is good…ahh maybe great, and my inner voice is telling me that I need to share what’s in my heart and soul with you all. I feel that if my post makes you smile or cry or wonder or hope then this is what I was put here to do. So forgive me for all my rambling but what I’m trying to say is that I have decided to take a new direction with Fabulous and 40. I want to share my home life, how I keep my sanity in my new life, how I handle the changes that come with turning 40. How I make my home a cozy, comforting place and how you can too. I want to move you and inspire you. My goal is to share how life at 40 (or 40 something ) can be pretty amazing.
So this is how I embrace Change…it might be scary but it can also be very rewarding.
If there was a magic pill to lose weight, would you take it? Do you fall for every new diet fad hoping for a different outcome than the last one? Have you ever wondered why most Fad Diets don’t work for you?
The most important thing when trying to improve your health is your approach and purpose. Why have you decided to respect your health and make lifestyle changes? If you’re not doing it for yourself, chances are your success rate will be compromised. We must decide to put ourselves first in order to stay dedicated, motivated and disciplined.
Secondly, we need to be willing to try out new things. Not one diet is the right blueprint for everyone. You have to look at your lifestyle, your current eating habits and your food restrictions. You have to be willing to make sacrifices, remain regimented and disciplined with these new eating habits. Making small changes and food swaps is the easiest way to be consistent and successful.
Lastly, but most importantly, follow a meal plan that makes you feel great. If restricting carbohydrates makes you have less energy, even though you’re eating a substantial amount of fruits, vegetables and protein, then that may not be for you. If a high-protein diet is something you want to try out, but your body is just not responding well to it, you may be doing more harm than good.
The best measurement to see what “diet plan” works best for you is how your body forms and feels each and every day. It’s not about the scale, it’s not about the weight loss, it’s about your overall well-being.
Simple swaps for a healthier well-being
Drink water instead of sugary drinks
Eat oatmeal instead of processed cereal
Pick healthy protein sources instead of protein shakes/bars (although these are convenient)
Do you strip all your clothes off, so its the lowest number possible?
Come on, we’ve all done it! But is this an accurate measurement of progress? To me the best measure of progress has to be how I feel both inside and out. I tend to measure by three things: how do your clothes fit, does your skin glow and how do you feel over all?
The scale is a great tool to use when you’re just getting started, but it can also be a frustrating instrument when trying to reach your goals.
As women, our weight fluctuates on a daily basis. We can thank genetics and hormones, oh and those impulsive trips to the pantry when we are under pressure. However, once you get a handle on your diet and exercise regimen, you should start seeing a change.
Sometimes our bodies retain water and hold on to weight, if the calorie deficit is too low. Therefore, you can diet for a whole week and never lose a pound. I think it’s much easier to get a healthy baseline, use it as a guide, and eat as many clean foods as you can until you have reached your caloric intake for the day. This way, it will be a lot easier to maintain this type of lifestyle. It is no longer a diet, it is just the way you eat. Try eating food that keep you full longer, doing this will help with the urge to snack on unhealthy stuff in your pantry and overeat.
So with that being said, although the scale is a great way to document your starting point, there are many other ways to truly see your progress.
Daily fluctuations happened to all of us. Don’t get discouraged by what you see from one day to another.
Use waist circumference and other body part measurements to track your progress
Don’t put the scale on a pedestal…it’s not always accurate
So remember this, if you weigh yourself at 135 lbs starting today and after training a month from now you are still 135 lbs but your waist measures a smaller size, that’s progress! Keep that in mind the next time you step on that scale.
I remember laughing at my mom when she spoke about “Hot Flashes” and “Hormonal Stuff,” when I was younger. I thought she was suffering from old people problems and it was nothing I needed to worry about, since getting old was a million years away.