Survival Guide for the 40-Something
Love & Life

Change..Life’s Unexpected Gift

When we were young, change was easier to handle. It didn’t mean we partiqularly liked it, but we were more apt to adapt to whatever changes came into our lives. To accept change and move forward was sort of a right of passage to growing up and becoming adults.

Change in our 40’s is not a welcomed thing, maybe because the changes at are age could be something like losing your job, getting divorced or finding out you are not in good health.


Every time my life was about to go through a major change, I sorta freaked out for about a minute. Seriously who wouldn’t? It’s a normal human reaction. When change is forced upon you it is better to embrace it with a open mindset. Change is a natural occurrence and also a necessary one. Change gives us the opportunity for growth, it also enables us to see things in a new perspective. If you keep these things in mind you will be able to navigate through the changes in your life with acceptance.

Sometimes change comes with an inner restlessness … a small voice inside you that keeps calling you, pushing you towards a new direction.

For the past few months I have be struggling with ideas for my blog. I felt as if I couldn’t really connect with what I was posting  on Instagram or writing on my blog. I love fashion so I thought I would post and write about that passion.. but overtime I felt as if it fell short… it wasn’t full filling. Don’t get me wrong, I am still a fashionista and a foodie for life!

Since I’ve been in Illinois, with my new family, life and home I have been joyfully thrown into the renovating of my house. The house has a unique look kinda lodge, kinda stuck in the 80’s, kinda WTH! The outside of the house is very woodsy which I love. When we decided to give this old gal a face lift I was a bit overwhelmed, but also excited to make this a home for all of us. My main goal was to keep some of the lodge style charm but also combined it with a bit of modern. This whole project has taken over a year and we are still at it. All I can say is that this is my happy place. I knew I loved to decorate but doing both decorating and renovating has been a dream come true. I also have a love for antiques and hunting for unique finds at flea markets and giving it a new life. I love baking… lots of baking. I love cooking with my husband and trying out new recipes. I love sitting in front of my fireplaces, all 3 of them. I love watching the trees welcome the seasons with their kaliedescope of colors. I love sharing my experiences be it good or bad and also sharing how I cope with it. So in the following weeks my Fabulous and 40 site and my Instagram will be going through some changes too .. good ones I promise.

Life is good…ahh maybe great, and my inner voice is telling me that I need to share what’s in my heart and soul with you all. I feel that if my post makes you smile or cry or wonder or hope then this is what I was put here to do. So forgive me for all my rambling but what I’m trying to say is that I have decided to take a new direction with Fabulous and 40. I want to share my home life, how I keep my sanity in my new life, how I handle the changes that come with turning 40. How I  make my home a cozy, comforting place and how you can too. I want to move you and inspire you. My goal is to share how life at 40 (or 40 something ) can be pretty amazing.

So this is how I embrace Change…it might be scary but it can also be very rewarding.

Thank you for joining me on this new journey!






Author: Victoria Alicea


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