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100 Days of Thought Provoking Questions… Day 1

Last year I stumbled across this book at Barns and Nobles, it’s a soft cover field guide called “Bella Grace Field Guide to Everyday Magic.”  It’s a book with 100 questions aimed at self-exploration. I was very intrigued by this and also desperate to find some sort of inspiration to get me writing again for my blog. Well, the field guide sat on my desk along with my computer collecting dust for about 3 months until today.

Today, January 4, 2018 to be exact, I decided to “Get Inspired,” so I grabbed all my blogging magazines, the field guide and watch a whole season of Gilmore Girls and nothing happened. I’ve been sitting here on my recliner for literally 3 hours just watching Gilmore Girls.  I’m on the season Rory moves in with Logan.  While reaching for my 4th cup of a coffee I accidently knocked over my journal and my new Bella Grace Field Guide… could this be a sign?

Just like that I was hit with an idea… why not blog a question for 100 days? This might be a way to really dig deep and for everyone to get to know me. This might even inspire you all to try this book for your own self exploration.


Day 1 –


This is an easy question for me … two songs quickly come to mind, one is #41 by the Dave Matthews Band and A Sorta Fairytale by Tori Amos.



This song means a lot to me .. Listening to it puts me in sort of trance.  The true meaning of the lyrics is about Dave Matthews having trouble with colleagues when he was first starting. To me it means something different.

“Come and see
I swear by now I’m playing time against my troubles, oh
Oh, I’m coming slow but speeding”


We all go through things in life .. good and bad. When I’m overcoming the obstacle in my life I feel as though I have triumphed against yet another one of life trials. “I’m coming in slow but speeding towards something better.

“I will go in this way, and find my own way out”


Sometimes no matter who tries to help or what advice is given .. you have to realize that you  have gotten yourself here and you’re going to be the only person to get yourself out. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s one of those inner growth moments…embrace it.

“Why won’t you ever be glad
It melts into wonder
I came in praying for you
Why won’t you run
In the rain and play
Let the tears splash all over you”


Human Nature 101.. dwell on the negative! We all do it … it takes super human strength not to let the negative seep in, than to just simply look at the positive in things. I feel that this is me yelling at me to stop doing just that. Why can’t I embrace the possibilities of what’s to come. This is where I roll down the windows, breathe in deep, feel the sun on my face and say … “fuck it!”

Life is good .. heck! it’s better than good … and to think this is just the beginning of my adventure.


A Sorta Fairytale


Who doesn’t love Tori Amos? Her songs are sometimes hard to decipher at the start but I feel she writes about her truths in her life. I guess that’s why I love her music so much, even though it might not be what she meant in her lyrics it’s easy to create my own story through her lyrics.

“And I’m so sad like a good book
I can’t put this day back
A sorta fairytale with you
A sorta fairytale with you”

This song reminds me of life and the fairytale we are told or fed when we are little, and even though you know life isn’t a fairytale you still are saddened by the fact that someone or something is not as perfect as you imagined it to be.  Life is full of joys and full of disappointments but that is the beauty of life. The beautiful thing about being human is even though we have suffered we still have the hope the fairytale is real.


Well sorry if this was so long and boring. I would love to hear your answers to this question.. 🙂


Author: Victoria Alicea


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